The book, Rewriting the Rules, is out in August 2012, published by Routledge, and available through their website and on Amazon. You can read a summary of the book here.

“We all struggle with relationships but now the rules have changed. We need a new rule book, and this is it.” –Dorothy Rowe, Psychologist and Writer.

“Meg Barker reveals, step by step, how unpacking and rewriting the ‘rules’ can not only free our relationships from the ties that bind us, but also offer a path to deep self-knowledge and acceptance. A beautifully explicated journey to the heart of loving.” – Dossie Easton, Marriage & Family Therapist, Co-author of The Ethical Slut.

“To tackle the dos and don’ts that flood intimate relationships advice, Meg Barker’s sharp, insightful, open-minded and friendly guide is here to help you navigate the mazes of modern love. Meg’s pen is like a benevolent friend who’s hand you don’t want to let go. Hold on to Rewriting the Rules.” – Esther Perel, Author of Mating in captivity.

Rewriting the Rules  is a book examining the complicated – and often contradictory – advice that is given about relationships.  It is a friendly guide through attraction and sex, monogamy and conflict, break-up and commitment.

Rewriting the Rules  asks questions such as: which to choose from all the rules on offer? Do we stick to the old rules we learnt growing up, even though they don’t completely fit? Or do we try something new and risk being out on our own and seen as a freak? And what about the times when the rules we love by seem to make things worse rather than better?

This website provides extra information about the topics covered in the book, including further reading, useful links, and posts on related topics.

The book, and this blog is written by me, Meg Barker. I’m a senior lecturer in psychology at the Open University and also a sex and relationship therapist. This website also gives information about my other research and writing as well as talks and training that I do.