I practise as a kind of consulting relationship geek with individuals – and pairs or small groups – who want to look at their relationships with themselves, with other people, with their work, and/or with the wider world.

This consulting generally takes place with people who’ve come across my writing, found it helpful, and feel I have something to offer them on a specific issue. While I draw on my therapy training, as well as my academic and activist experience, this is usually shorter term than therapy, and has a more peer-to-peer support or mentoring feel to it.

These are the kinds of issues that I work with in this way:

  • Building self-care practices into your everyday life
  • Figuring out your relationship style/structure (in relation to romantic, friendship, and/or other types of relationships)
  • Exploring your relationship to work and dealing with its emotional challenges (specifically I can work with academics, therapists, LGBTQ+ community organisers, and writers/creative folk)
  • Specific input on your work around gender, sexuality and relationship diversity or other areas of expertise that I have
  • Reflecting on how you negotiate consent and boundaries in your professional/personal relationships
  • Negotiating with a partner, friend, or colleague over these kinds of issues (in joint sessions)
  • Relating to the wider world in relation to social justice, activism, or resisting critical cultural messages
  • Smaller group workshops working through my self-help materials

I mostly see people for this work for one-hour sessions on Wednesday afternoons in central London or over Skype. Sometimes it takes the form of a one-off session to direct you to relevant resources and other sources of support. Other times it might involve a few weekly sessions, or once a month for a few months.

Contact me directly if you are interested in this (


All my therapy work is in voluntary capacity within an LGBT organisation, London Friend, which has a number of excellent counsellors who offer short-term therapy. If you are looking for a gender, sexuality and relationship diverse (GSRD) affirmative private therapist, check out London Sex and Relationship Therapy or Pink Therapy. There are also online lists of Kink Aware Therapists and Poly friendly therapists (and other professionals).

There is further information about how to find a therapist on the Sense about Sex website. In the UK you can either get a referral to a specialist NHS clinic through your GP, or find a private or voluntary therapist. The most important thing is to find a therapist or counsellor who you have a good rapport with and feel comfortable speaking with. The videos that I created with Open University colleagues here are useful if you want to find out more.


I can’t otherwise engage in personal correspondence about your issues, but hopefully you will find the posts, links and resources on this website useful in relation to this. There are online groups and workshop-based events for many gender, sexuality, and relationship diverse communities which can be great places to get support and advice. An internet search should suggest groups in your local area or online spaces where you can chat to likeminded people.