Comments for Rewriting The Rules

Comment on Free book 2: Trauma by Margot

Margot — Sat, 21 Aug 2021 18:45:05 +0000

This is really generous and the anticipation feels quite exciting. Thanks MJ!

Comment on Trauma and cPTSD 101 by Emily

Emily — Sat, 07 Aug 2021 13:37:56 +0000

Thank you so, so much for this post. I’ve recently come to terms with this being my reality and it’s been so fucking hard not to feel like I’m broken beyond repair. This helps so much, thank you.

Comment on Consensual Relationships Revisited: Only with Consent by Riya Rajgire

Riya Rajgire — Fri, 06 Aug 2021 08:28:18 +0000

Hi! I love how informative and great your articles are. Can you recommend any other Soul Healing blogs that go over the same topics? Thanks a lot!

Comment on Make it the practice: Mindful driving by Joanna

Joanna — Wed, 23 Jun 2021 02:16:56 +0000

Thank you for this terrific article. I can relate exactly to all of the feelings you had about walking the dog and all those reasons for speeding too.

Comment on Letting go of gender reveal parties by Dee

Dee — Thu, 17 Jun 2021 08:15:52 +0000

Great post MJ and I must check out the documentary.

Comment on Trauma and cPTSD 101 by Meg-John Barker

Meg-John Barker — Thu, 10 Jun 2021 10:39:45 +0000

In reply to Kerry.

I love feeding the demons too – I did a blog post about it here – rewriting-the-rules.com/self/intergenerational-trauma/
Love and power back.

Comment on Trauma and cPTSD 101 by Kerry

Kerry — Wed, 09 Jun 2021 15:31:34 +0000

ah meg that pema chodron book was just what i needed on the train today. I did the Feeding the Demons practice today too. have you heard of that? Really powerful. Wow. I’m feeling much clearer on how to move forward. Anyway keep keeping on. We can heal and grow stronger. Liberation is possible! Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Sending love and power.

Comment on Trauma and cPTSD 101 by Meg-John Barker

Meg-John Barker — Wed, 09 Jun 2021 07:55:02 +0000

In reply to Kerry.

Absolutely makes sense. So helpful to disentangle people pleasing type care and kindness as a trauma response from compassion and kindness that comes from a place of valuing ourselves and others – but not easy to do of course – I’m still working on it every day!

I love bell hooks – All About Love on this, and Pema Chodron The Wisdom of No Escape – where she talks about befriending ourselves as the basis of befriending others.

Comment on Trauma and cPTSD 101 by Kerry

Kerry — Fri, 04 Jun 2021 06:37:31 +0000

This is great meg. Much needed reminder of the brilliance of Pete and how to move forward. I’m struggling now with the huge realisation that my whole life has been set up to prove my worth/goodness/kindness to the world and myself but primarily the ghosts of the past. Compassion as a trauma response but how then to be compassionate to others when it’s born from a need to be kind to be seen as kind and to prove kindness and yet I believe that life is about compassionate action yet all my actions are coming from neurosis? Hard. Buddhism teaches that we must make others happy and be compassionate and yet I do this because of trauma not just because of philosophy. So I’m at a loss. This was my driver and now it’s gone and I don’t trust my kindness anymore if that makes sense.

Comment on Trauma and cPTSD 101 by Meg-John Barker

Meg-John Barker — Wed, 02 Jun 2021 15:00:02 +0000

In reply to Julie Lawrence. Oh this is such kind feedback Julie, thankyou so much for taking the time. I've just brought all my trauma posts into a free book pdf (downloadable here on the website), so this is very affirming of the work I've been doing. All the very best :-)