Comments on: Doing Valentine’s Day Differently

By: FindBeautifulDesigns

FindBeautifulDesigns — Tue, 19 Jan 2021 07:36:34 +0000

You raise some really interesting issues. Singledom should be celebrated on Valentine’s Day just as much as coupledom! We have so many important and loving relationships with friends and others that we should be proud to celebrate. I just wrote a post on FindBeautifulDesigns.com about gifts that you can give to any of the people you care about for Valentine’s Day, if anyone’s looking for some ideas.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Fri, 29 May 2020 09:52:18 +0000

Really an amazing blog and I loved the way you described the whole scenario. You are going to rock!

By: Shivangi

Shivangi — Fri, 11 Jan 2019 11:00:32 +0000

Really a great technique .. great blog thanks for sharing

By: Stephen

Stephen — Thu, 06 Dec 2018 19:15:31 +0000

nice idea but dont know how many of you will comply ……. #hope

By: Roni

Roni — Thu, 12 Jan 2017 10:04:31 +0000

“Such a beautiful article on beautiful blog. Thanks”

By: The Modern Romance | Dream Electric

The Modern Romance | Dream Electric — Tue, 14 Feb 2012 18:59:37 +0000

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By: Tracey

Tracey — Tue, 14 Feb 2012 13:54:33 +0000

I like this post a lot, though I’d want to add that a group that is clearly excluded around Valentine’s Day is aromantic people – you’ve covered that a bit with talking about how friendship and other forms of love are not valued enough – but I thought it worth mentioning. I really agree with the comments about how the forms of love celebrated by Valentine’s Day are very narrow and prescriptive. Being in non-monogamous relationships myself, I certainly wasn’t going to buy any of the many cards declaring “you’re the only one for me”, or “all yours”!

By: Ashley

Ashley — Tue, 14 Feb 2012 13:29:26 +0000

Posts like this are such a relief after half-hour or so spent in a library yesterday afternoon waiting for my girlfriend to finish work with books like “Why do women have sex?” thrust in my face on prominent display. Am I the only one who senses pride from society as a whole that sex is no longer taboo but finds the feeling totally misguided as so much of the literature & debate wants to imply laws as to how relationships should & should not be, belying only deeper insecurity concerning society’s sense of relationship-worth? No…? Anyway, picking up this and some other tome on the “horrors” of infidelity and how to deal with it (a series of “trust” exercises to shame the “discovered” and “heal” that “wanderlust” s/he may be feeling, if anyone’s wondering), I felt like quite the aberration ad it’s just nice to know not everyone thinks I’m a total freak.

By: Kwerey

Kwerey — Mon, 13 Feb 2012 16:58:07 +0000

I like this post a lot – it’s repeating a lot of things I’ve been thinking through recently about relationships and how they’re hierarchised, and details like your sister’s cards make me smile. I’ve never felt as specifically alienated by Valentine’s Day as a lot of my fellow asexuals and singletons have, because it works mostly in the kind of consumerist way that I try and tune out all year, but, yeah, I like your commentary. Hope you enjoy the day. Subversively.

By: Karen

Karen — Mon, 13 Feb 2012 14:49:25 +0000

I’m a sucker for the whole hearts-and-flowers romance thing, I’m afraid, but trawling around the shops this lunchtime for a guiltily last-minute card for my partner of eight years, I was struck by how many of the sentiments expressed on or in the cards were not appropriate to my situation. Racks of cards shouting, “Be mine” (how possessive!) or “You’re the only one for me” (how monogamous!), dedicated to ‘My Boyfriend’, ‘My Wife’ or ‘My Fiance’, as though those were the only acceptable choices.

As usual, I ended up buying a blank art card from the (rather squeezed-looking) non-Valentine’s section of the shop and writing my own message to my amazing boy. And no, I’m not telling you what it is – it’s a secret!

I’ll wake up with my partner tomorrow morning, but we have no big romantic evening planned for Valentine’s Day. Our respective weeks are too busy (with work, and with other lovers) and we both need a ‘night off’ to relax and have time to ourselves – and we have no urge to shoe-horn ourselves into an overfull restaurant to eat an overpriced ‘special romantic menu’. I plan to spend the evening curled up at home with a decent bottle of wine and the Leonard Cohen album that always reminds me of a bittersweet summer spent with a former lover. It might not be the stuff of Hallmark cards, but who cares?