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Love Uncommon courses: Mapping Your Relationships and Coming Home

Meg-John Barker — Mon, 24 Nov 2025 15:25:46 +0000

Here at Rewriting the Rules we’re happy to be in ongoing relationship with Love Uncommon – a collective whose work is very much aligned with our own (albeit ours is more of an internal collective, and theirs is more of an external one!)

Read on to find out more about their work, and their current – and upcoming – online courses on mapping your relationships (for everybody) and emotional/nervous system regulation (for practioners).

Love Uncommon Collective

A bunch of great folk are now collaborating with Sophia Graham from Love Uncommon on various projects including:

Our co-author of books like How to Understand Your Relationships, Alex Iantiffi
Mel Cassidy, author of the highly recommended new relationship book Radical Relating
Jaï Bristow, who we’ve been interviewed by many times, and who runs the excellent Power, Privilege and Prejudice online course
Some of the folk who also work with the excellent Art of Consent

In particular, there are two online courses currently available, and coming up, on Love Uncommon that readers of Rewriting the Rules might be interested in:

Mapping Your Relationship Ecosystem

Available this week at a 50% discount with the code Holiday50

Sophia and Alex present a wonderful course – for everybody – on how to relate with greater awareness, intentionality, gentleness, and clarity about relational values.

The core concept is creating a visual map of all the significant connections in your life—your inner circle, your community, your relationship with creativity, and even your companion animals and environment. It’s an exercise in taking an honest, holistic look at your world (and there’s an interview with us about mapping inner relationships included)

You can find out more about the course here.
And sign up here.

Coming Home for Practitioners

The fabulous Daniel Morrison is putting on an online course – over eight weeks in the new year – specifically aimed at therapists, coaches and similar practitioners. It’s all about emotional regulation and mapping, navigating and shaping your autonomic nervous system. Here’s what he says about the course.

You’ll be led through structures to map your own system and learn to recognise states of protection and connection.

We’ll adventure together through your inner landscape, find the ways to navigate and the paths that lead you home.

In this course specially adapted for therapists and coaches, you’ll learn how to bring this important work to clients through deepening your understanding of your own system.

You can find out more about the course here.
You can sign up here (GBP), here (Euro) or here (USD).

A version of this course should be available more widely in the future – watch this space.

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Mapping your relationship ecosystem

Meg-John Barker — Tue, 26 Aug 2025 12:45:28 +0000

Two of our favourite folks have recently got together to produce an online course on Mapping Your Relationship Ecosystem.

Sophia Graham from Love Uncommon – who has so many great resources on self-consent among other things – and our beloved co-author Alex Iantaffi have put together an amazing programme of handouts, videos, recorded exercises and more. The course helps you to:

Reflect on your relationships
Check in with yourself about whether your relationships reflect your values, intentions and desires.
Explore the patterns that play out in your relationships.
Get in touch with the reality of your current relational world.

We – plurally – contributed a video interview for the course about how it can be useful to map our both internal and external relationships.

You can find out more about the course here.

And sign up here.

Also, if you’re interested in developing relationship skills, you might want to check out Sophia’s weekly DBT class on distress tolerance for neuroqueers. Details and sign up here.

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Love Uncommon: DBT for practitioners and more

Meg-John Barker — Fri, 16 May 2025 13:54:37 +0000

A couple of weeks ago we recorded a video about plural/inner relationships with Sophia at Love Uncommon for a new online course that she and Alex Iantaffi are putting together on mapping your relationships.

That course isn’t available yet, but in the meantime we thought to flag up another course that Sophia is starting very soon. If you read our books or other materials you’ll know that we often recommend Love Uncommon’s work around self consent, emotional regulation, and relationship skills, particularly for marginalised and neurodivergent folk.

Check out those links in the previous paragraph if you’re looking for a general course on these topics. Meanwhile here are details of Love Uncommon’s new course for therapists and other helping professionals (like nurses, OT’s, coaches and teachers).

Sophia is teaching Dialectical Behaviour therapy skills with a neuroqueer lens to a small group of queer and neuroqueers. The focus is on learning skills to use in our own lives so that we can share them effectively with the people we help.

The course will cover ways to survive a crisis without making everything worse, how we might orient and ground ourselves in the present moment, and how central pleasure can be in building a better future. If you’re interested in compassionate mental health approaches and believe in the strength of community, this course is for you! Join Sophia Graham at Love Uncommon for DBT skills for helping professionals.

When: 10am Eastern on the third Tuesday of the month for 90 minutes.

Where: Live zoom meeting

Cost: $60 per session (75% off for BIPOC with code globalmajority75)

Sign up here: https://dbt4helpers.teachery.co/signup

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