You can download my free book on plurality as a pdf here. It contains my collected writing about plural selves.

 

If you’d rather read this writing online, here are some links to our main posts about plurality.

• You can find our zine introducing the concept of plurality here.
• An FAQ about plurality is here.
• There are posts about how plurality relates to trauma here and here, and how it relates to mindfulness here.
• There is an academic paper about plurality, queerness, and comics here.
• There are posts about our flight, freeze, fawn and fight parts here and here.
• There is a comic introducing all of us here which we would love one day to expand into a graphic memoir.
• There’s an interview with us about plurality and mental health on the So Many Wings podcast, and in written form here.

 

Parts and posts

 

Fox 🦊 is our youngest child self. They relate to the freeze survival strategy. They are wild and free and imaginative and good at being gentle and finding delight in things. They love nature, animals and drawing. They are responsible for any seagull pics on this blog. Expect exclamation points! You can hear from Fox in the following blog posts:

• Balancing fight, flight, freeze and fawn: A plural perspective 1

 

Jonathan 🦖 is the serious geeky kid we became who tried to please everybody. He relates to the fawn survival strategy. He’s great at feeling the feelings for all of us and for others. He enjoys cooking, comics, and superhero movies. He’s grown more sturdy over time. You can hear from Jonathan in the following blog posts:

• Happy holidays comic: Plural selves
• Taking ourselves seriously
• Balancing fight, flight, freeze and fawn: A plural perspective 2
• Plural conversation about fear(others)/shame(self)
• Embrace your inner mutant superpower

 

Tony 😏 is the guy we feel we might’ve been had we been a guy from the start. He relates to the attach survival strategy. He’s cocky, confident, impetuous, and full of joy and playfulness on the surface, full of deep yearning and neediness deep down. His nickname is Trouble because that’s the risk with him, although he’s grown steadier over time. You can hear from Tony in the following blog posts:

• Slow Relating
• Working Dunbar’s Number and Other Adventures in Slow Relating
• New Year, New Zine: Plural Selves

 

Max 🌩 is the warrior protector we became when the world was harsh and unaccepting. She relates to the flight survival strategy. She was highly motivated to work hard, help others, and figure out why things were so hard for us. These days she’s off walking in the hills while the rest of us get on with it. You can hear from Max in the following blog posts:

• Accompanying vs. abandoning ourselves
• Taking ourselves seriously
• Balancing fight, flight, freeze and fawn: A plural perspective 1
• New Year, New Zine: Plural Selves

 

Morgan (aka Beastie) 🐙 was our inner critic. She was a terrifying monster for most of our life – hurling abuse at us from somewhere out in the depths – hence the name. Lately we’ve finally welcomed her in and she’s become an integral part of the team, and surprisingly tender. She relates to the fight survival strategy. She’s clear, honest, tough, boundaried and able to sit with complexity and darkness. You can hear from Morgan in the following blog posts:

• Mind the gap 1: On slowing down and making space
• Accompanying vs. abandoning ourselves
• Plural Selves FAQ
• Plurality and trauma – 1 – theory
• Plurality and trauma – 2 – practices
• Balancing fight, flight, freeze and fawn: A plural perspective 2
• The master’s tools and mental health: We can’t get out of our struggles the same way we got into them

 

James 🤵 is our older protective presence, named for James Bond. He’s competent, containing, patient, and disciplined. He likes reading and talking philosophy. You can hear from James in the following blog posts:

• Plural Selves FAQ
• Plurality and trauma – 1 – theory
• Plurality and trauma – 2 – practices
• Trauma and the Body Basics
• Zones of stuck patterns
• Staying with the big feels

 

Ara 🧙‍♀️ is our older caring presence, named for Arachne in Greek myth. She’s wise, kind, nurturing and peaceful. She likes nature and helping us slow down and reflect on things. You can hear from Ara in the following blog posts:

• Mind the gap 1: On slowing down and making space
• Slow Relating
• Holding multiple possible stories through our experience
• Working Dunbar’s Number and Other Adventures in Slow Relating
• Staying with the big feels