Happy holidays comic: Plural selves

Happy holidays comic: Plural selves

Happy holidays from Rewriting the Rules!

I haven’t blogged as much this year as I have in the past. This is partly because it’s been a year of huge change and upheaval for me, so my writing has been focused inwards more than outwards. It’s also because the things that have been going on in the wider world – particularly #metoo and the trans moral panic – have echoed through my communities, families, close relationships, and internal world in ways that have made it difficult – often impossible – to write and speak publicly about them, even though I still have much to say on the topics of consent and gender.

What have I been up to?

I have been podcasting with the fabulous Justin Hancock all year though, so feel free to check our collaborative project out at, including our holiday special on giving and receiving coming out over the holidays.

I’ve also finished a couple of books that’ll be out next year: Life Isn’t Binary with Alex Iantaffi, and Gender: A Graphic Guide with Julia Scheele (our follow-up to Queer). This year The Psychology of Sex came out which I’m really pleased with, as well as Mediated Intimacy – an academic book about sex advice with Rosalind Gill and Laura Harvey. It felt wonderful to publish a book based on my research before I leave academia next summer to focus on writing full time.

The comic

For the holidays I want to share with you a comic that comes out of the more internal work that I’ve been doing. Last year for the holidays I shared my Plural Selves Zine – about how we can see ourselves as multiple rather than singular, and learn to communicate better across all of our selves. This is something I’ve been delving deeper into during the year – in my journaling and creative writing, as well as in my relationships. The comic is one thing that has come out of that work. I hope you enjoy it. You can check out more of my resources on plurality here.

You can either download the pdf of the comic below, or read it through the pics that follow…

ChalkBoard Comic

Meg-John (MJ) Barker (they/them) is a writer, zine-maker, collaborator, contemplative practitioner, and friend. They are the author of a number of zines and popular books on sex, gender, and relationships, including graphic guides to Queer, Gender, and Sexuality (with Jules Scheele), and How To Understand Your Gender, Sexuality and Relationships (with Alex Iantaffi).