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Mapping your relationship ecosystem

Meg-John Barker — Tue, 26 Aug 2025 12:45:28 +0000

Two of our favourite folks have recently got together to produce an online course on Mapping Your Relationship Ecosystem.

Sophia Graham from Love Uncommon – who has so many great resources on self-consent among other things – and our beloved co-author Alex Iantaffi have put together an amazing programme of handouts, videos, recorded exercises and more. The course helps you to:

Reflect on your relationships
Check in with yourself about whether your relationships reflect your values, intentions and desires.
Explore the patterns that play out in your relationships.
Get in touch with the reality of your current relational world.

We – plurally – contributed a video interview for the course about how it can be useful to map our both internal and external relationships.

You can find out more about the course here.

And sign up here.

Also, if you’re interested in developing relationship skills, you might want to check out Sophia’s weekly DBT class on distress tolerance for neuroqueers. Details and sign up here.

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Self-care, trauma, and embodiment podcast

Meg-John Barker — Fri, 23 Oct 2020 13:23:11 +0000

Recently Alex Iantaffi and I spoke at The Embodiment Conference about our upcoming book, Hell Yeah Self Care. Alex released the dialogue over on their podcast, Gender Stories.

We’re discussed some of the key themes in the book, applying them to the current moment, including embodiment, intersectionality, trauma, plurality, and the non-binary approach.

You can check out the podcast here, and order the book here via QueerLit online bookstore, or from your local independent bookstore.

We have written a joint statement about The Embodiment Conference and the issues that have been raised with this event here, and there is an excellent piece which captures many of my feelings on the matter by Dr. Jess Glenny, Rev. Jude Mills and Dr. Theo Wildcroft here.

Alex and I just finished our annual writing retreat – online this time sadly for us. How to Understand Your Sexuality should be out late next year, including many similar themes of care, consent, intersectionality, embodiment, non-binary thinking, and trauma applied specifically to sexuality.

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New joint podcasts: Covid-19, trauma, and non-binary thinking

Meg-John Barker — Fri, 24 Apr 2020 11:53:00 +0000

Over the last few weeks I did two joint podcasts with co-creators who’ve also been putting out content on coping with the pandemic and lockdown situation.

First up, Nina Burrowes – from The Consent Collective – and I spoke about how survivors of trauma are experiencing living through this and what we can do if we’re experiencing trauma responses at this time.

Listen here. Check out their other Together Apart content here.

Then Alex Iantaffi – from Gender Stories – and I spoke about how the ideas we wrote about in Life Isn’t Binary might be helpful at this time, particularly in relation to thinking, feeling, and relating in non-binary ways.

Listen here. Check out their episode on gender and Covid-19 here.

I’m also still podcasting every week with Justin of course. Check out our Patreon for recent episodes with everything you need to know about various forms of solo sex/sensuality, and us getting existential with our watch-a-long of Groundhog Day. On our regular feed you can find us talking about Love in the time of Covid-19 and coping with the stress of it.

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