Another new zine! Relationship shares and check-in...

Another new zine! Relationship shares and check-ins

We’re on a bit of a roll with relationship tech zines at the moment. After the last one on Relationship Struggles (all about relationship trauma and what we can learn from various kinds of relationship diversity to help with this), this new one covers various ways of doing individual sharing and process check-ins in relationships of all kinds (one-to-one and groups).

It seems appropriate to be thinking so much about relationships, given this upcoming time with co-author Alex Iantaffi likely planning (but not yet writing!) our next book How to Understand Your Relationships.

This new zine explains the importance of three kinds of time together in one-to-one and group relationships: Alongside Time, Individual Sharing, and Relationship Process. It covers one sharing method in detail: PIERS(c) where you share about yourself and your current life under the themes of: Physical, Ideas, Emotional, Relational, and Spiritual (or Self Path).

The (c) stands for relationship check-in and is an invitation to consider whether you are both/all up for doing any relationship process conversation, such as talking about any dynamics you’ve noticed, or repairing minor ruptures. The (c) can also be an opportunity to check-in about headlines you’d like to cover in the rest of the conversation between you, or alongside activities you’d like to do together and how.

You can download the zine here if it’s of interest.


Meg-John Barker is the author of a number of popular books on sex, gender, and relationships, including Queer: A Graphic History, How To Understand Your Gender, Enjoy Sex (How, When, and IF You Want To), Rewriting the Rules, The Psychology of Sex, and The Secrets of Enduring Love. They have also written a number of books for scholars and counsellors on these topics, drawing on their own research and therapeutic practice.