Free book 3: Consent

I’ve recently added a new page to my website for free books. These are collections of blog posts and other things I’ve written over the years on specific topics. I figured that a lot of readers would prefer everything collected together in one place rather than having to go searching through old blog posts and articles elsewhere online.

Free Books

The first three free books I’ve created are largely based on the writing I did last year as I navigated learning about trauma (personally, and in general), and considering how my relationship with my (plural) self, and other people, might work (consensually) under this new understanding – all during a global pandemic! So there are now three free books on these topics of trauma, plurality, and consent.

In future I hope to add free books of my best writing on gender, sexuality, love, and mental health, along with one about writing itself.

I thought I’d announce each free book over the coming weeks for people who follow my blog or twitter but don’t regularly check out the website.


The third free book is all about consent. It starts with my consent checklist zine and then goes on to all the recent writing I’ve done, particularly focused on sexual consent and social scripts, how we can make all our relationships more consensual, the importance of boundaries, the impact of gaslighting on consent, and applying consent ideas to various contexts.

We hope you enjoy this first free book. More about the other ones to come…

Meg-John Barker is the author of a number of popular books on sex, gender, and relationships, including Queer: A Graphic History, How To Understand Your Gender, Enjoy Sex (How, When, and IF You Want To), Rewriting the Rules, The Psychology of Sex, and The Secrets of Enduring Love. They have also written a number of books for scholars and counsellors on these topics, drawing on their own research and therapeutic practice.