Explore more: Sex and relationship advice

Explore more: Sex and relationship advice

The Explore More summit started yesterday, and my vid went live today, along with excellent chats between Dawn Serra and Feminista Jones (sexuality and anti-racism expert) and Betty Martin (consent inspiration).

Check out this page to watch all the vids and find out more about the rest of this amazing online summit about sex, love, relationships, self-care, and much more.

My vid covered:

  • The systemic & pervasive problems with sex advice, and what Justin Hancock and I are¬†proposing as an alternative to enjoying sex.
  • Why having sexual goals (orgasm, erection, wetness, intercourse) pushes us further from pleasure & connection.
  • Getting our needs met from a variety of sources and the importance of valuing non-romantic, non-sexual relationships.
  • Consent for the entire relationship and what that looks like for all of us.

Meg-John (MJ) Barker (they/them) is a writer, zine-maker, collaborator, contemplative practitioner, and friend. They are the author of a number of zines and popular books on sex, gender, and relationships, including graphic guides to Queer, Gender, and Sexuality (with Jules Scheele), and How To Understand Your Gender, Sexuality and Relationships (with Alex Iantaffi).


  1. Ashta

    9 March

    I just finished watching your talk and I enjoyed it greatly. You touched on a lot of things that I had never thought about. I made some notes and I look forward to the conversations I’m going to have with my partners to discuss our thoughts on sex and relationships. Thank you for doing the Explore More summit!

    • Meg-John Barker

      10 March

      Thanks so much for the kind comment Ashta. If you want to explore those ideas further you might like the zines that me and Justin produced ‘make your own relationship user guide’ and ‘make your own sex manual’. You can get them here if you fancy that:

      All the best


  2. Sam

    23 October

    Hi, your video is not available, please give the video link.

    • Meg-John Barker

      23 October

      Thanks for flagging this. Unfortunately the Explore More videos only appear online for a short period. If you do want to access past or future Explore More Summit videos then check out the details on