Savage advice on monogamish relationships

Savage advice on monogamish relationships

Dan Savage did this presentation to the Festival of Dangerous Ideas on monogamy, non-monogamy and monogamish relationships. Lots of interesting ideas in there, and he quotes Rewriting the Rules at the end! How to make sure that our relationships – of whatever kind – are not ‘disasters waiting to happen’.



Meg-John (MJ) Barker (they/them) is a writer, zine-maker, collaborator, contemplative practitioner, and friend. They are the author of a number of zines and popular books on sex, gender, and relationships, including graphic guides to Queer, Gender, and Sexuality (with Jules Scheele), and How To Understand Your Gender, Sexuality and Relationships (with Alex Iantaffi).


  1. Linda Kirkman

    23 November

    I was there! At the Melbourne, not the Sydney talk, and was excited to hear you and your book get a shout out. I elbowed the person next to me and said, ‘I’ve got that book. Meg Barker is awesome!’

    It is a good lecture with sensible ideas with the goal of promoting relationship longevity. Dan must have said this stuff many, many times yet delivers it like it is new and fresh. He’s a great presenter. He did lots of Australian media that week and on ABC TV’s Q and A, countering Peter Hitchens’ stuffy, narrow-minded approach, showed he could think on his feet and be witty, cutting and articulate. Germaine Greer was on Q and A as well and was brilliant too.

    • megbarkerpsych

      24 November

      Oh brilliant! I’m so stoked about it. Really loved the talk too 🙂

  2. Helpwithman

    15 October

    love the write up it perfectly a motivational one to grow the long healthy and positive relationship between two. My suggestion to reader i that focus on your present instead of tempering the past. its a key of any successful relationship.

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