My new book with Alex Iantaffi is out today! The book, How to Understand Your Sexuality, is a follow up to our previous book How to Understand Your Gender. Next year we’re planning to make it a trilogy by writing the final book in the series How to Understand Your Relationships.

The idea with all these books is to be a gentle, friendly guide to how gender, sexuality, and relationships work, and how to understand your own relationship with these aspects of ourselves. So this time we cover:

• What sexuality is and the different relationships people can have with it, encompassing diverse forms of asexuality and allosexuality
• How the world around us generally understands sexuality, and the impact that has on us
• Our experiences of sexuality growing up
• Our experiences of sexuality now
• How we can live our sexualities, in terms of identifying, expressing and practicing them
• How we navigate our sexualities in relationships of various kinds
• Finding support and community around our sexualities, if we want to

In this book, in particular, we recognise that our sexuality or asexuality can take us towards delight, pleasure, belonging, and freedom, and it can also be a place where we experience trauma, shame, isolation, and restriction. For most of us there will be elements of both, especially given the stigma around diverse sexualities, and the commonality of non-consensual sex. Hopefully one of the strengths of the book is that it encompasses how all of these things impact our relationship to our sexualities, and how we can engage with them.

We were very pleased to have Jules Scheele contribute a wonderful cover, and several drawings, to the book again. And this time another wonderful comic creator, Erika Moen, contributed a lovely forward. We hope you enjoy it 🙂