New video: All about love, sex, gender, Buffy and ...

New video: All about love, sex, gender, Buffy and barbers

I was really flattered recently when James Marcus Tucker and Michael Urwin from Peruvian Tree Productions asked to film me for one of their Inspiring Minds videos about people in the LGBTQ community. They’ve already created three wonderful films featuring Kerry-Anne Mendoza, Peter Tatchell, and Ricky Beadle-Blair.

The idea is that they follow you round for a couple of hours while you take them on a tour of places that are important to you, walking and talking. For my journey I knew exactly where to start: getting my hair cut at the marvellous queer and trans friendly hairdressers Open Barbers. I’m really grateful to Felix for coming in early so that we could begin there. Afterwards I took James and Michael down to London Friend: the LGB&T health and well-being centre where I work as a counsellor once a week. And then we headed down past Kings Cross to the canal where I often walk along to the Open University branch in Camden, to put on events or host meetings.

We talked about lots of topics including therapy, love, gender, sexual and relationship diversity, the need (or not) for labels, kink, and what kind of cake I prefer! You can also see me enthusing about my favourite character from Buffy the Vampire Slayer, trying to explain Buddhist mindfulness in 60 seconds, and talking about the excellent new Open University module ‘Mad or Bad’ that I’m currently involved in producing. A lovely day and a great conversation.

I totally love the video. I’m just a little concerned that I come over like that ‘brilliant’ guy from The Fast Show. But maybe that’s not such a bad thing.


Meg-John (MJ) Barker (they/them) is a writer, zine-maker, collaborator, contemplative practitioner, and friend. They are the author of a number of zines and popular books on sex, gender, and relationships, including graphic guides to Queer, Gender, and Sexuality (with Jules Scheele), and How To Understand Your Gender, Sexuality and Relationships (with Alex Iantaffi).